On Forgiveness

Why is it so difficult for us to forgive others? 

Why do we find it so hard to let go?

Sometimes, even years after a certain incident; 

sometimes, even after they have apologized; 

sometimes, when they have hurt you unknowingly 

and have no idea that you are struggling to forgive 

them.

Why?

Because we are usually under the misconception t

hat we will be doing them a favor by forgiving them.

That in fact, is not the case.

When we forgive someone, we actually do ourselves 

huge favor because through forgiveness.

We release all the negative thoughts, emotions and 

energies that we are so desperately holding onto in 

our anger.

Replaying the moment again and again in our mind, 

torturing ourselves in so many ways.

It hurts us more than them, when we don't forgive.

We find it hard to forgive because we think we are 

n the more powerful position when we hold back 

forgiveness. 

Actually we are the weak ones, if that's the kind 

of power we rely on to give us strength.

We are also not able to forgive because we take 

everything so personally.

Not everything another person does is done with 

the concious intention of hurting you.

Sometimes they are just trying to protect

themselves and that's the best  they know how 

to protect themselves.

Haven't you heard of the saying  'The Best 

Defence is Offense'? 

We need to give allowance to others for their 

insecurities and their imperfections without 

asking things personally.

So even if you do it for the most selfish of 

reasons, go ahead and forgive.

First, forgive yourself for holding onto the 

grudge for as long as you did.

Then, forgive the other person.

Finally, be proud of yourself.